A wedding without a good toast or two is like a great meal without any dessert, I always say. So why do many people hesitate to take this opportunity to recognize and pay tribute to the happy couple? Perhaps they’re concerned they might not do it properly, or maybe the fear of speaking in front of a group is holding them back. Perhaps you’re nervous as the groom’s best man, knowing this responsibility falls on your shoulders.
Take it from this Toastmaster: you can do it!
Give the formal toast just after being seated for the meal or just prior to cutting the cake. Standing to get everyone’s attention, gently tap a glass with a spoon and ask everyone to rise except the bride and groom. Looking towards the couple, raise your glass and offer a brief (1-2 minute) tribute and congratulation to the couple. It should be personalized and sincere without any inappropriate or embarrassing dialogue. For example:
“I’d like to offer a toast to my longtime friend Ryan and his lovely bride, Heather. Ryan and I have been the best of friends through high school as well as on our basketball team. We have experienced the thrill of victory and the agony of defeat together. Ryan is a loyal and caring individual and a great teammate who deserves to have an exceptional partner. I believe that he has found her. Witnessing this wedding brings to mind a beautiful sunrise that continues to brighten the day as it progresses. I’m confident that this marriage will have many bright and beautiful days and will continue to grow. Congratulations Ryan and Heather and to both of you, my best wishes for a beautiful life together!”
Upon finishing, lead the group in clinking their glasses and take a sip. At that point, the group sits and the bride and groom may thank the toaster; it is also appropriate for the couple to stand and give thanks to their parents, wedding party members, relatives and guests, for attending and supporting them.
A toast well presented is a very special gift to the recipient. Make it positive and from the heart!
